I only ever seem to fall for straight girls and sometimes I feel like it's hopeless, I'll never find a girl who will love me back. There are so few lesbians/bisexual women out there that really the chances of finding someone I love who loves me back seem terribly slim. So what are the chances of finding someone? And where are the best places to meet people? (I live in Finland so I doubt anyone can tell me any places really but I figured it might be worth asking, lol)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 7 Answers
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yea i seriously know what you're goin through, i live in a really small town and there are like no bi/les girls here, sometimes i wonder if i'm the only one lol. but i am on som dating sites which honestly doesnt help much for me but it might help you, you should give it a try. I also plan on moving to a big city when i get enough money, i figure there has got to be better chances in a big city rather than here in 'mayberry' lol
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Of course u can find someone, i live in america so i cant recommend any places. Just try talking to people, if there lesbian or bisexual might be hard to find out but maybe if they are they can tell you. I myself am probably bisexual but i don't tell people unless they ask and there my friends. Allot of people are like that, but be careful of bi-curious people. They may just be exploring and sometimes you can get real feelings for them and they tell you they realized there straight. I hope this helped!
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True that in the gay world, there are slim pickins. I can't tell you want the chances are statistically of finding your true love, but the truth is, whoever we decide to settle with BECOMES "the one." I feel for you... I don't know finland at all, but if you can find a gay bar or lesbian club of sorts (usually in major cities) then you're chances of finding someone who will love you back goes way up. If it's that important to you and you can't find anyone that is gay, I would seriously consider moving to a more gay-inhabited area. To meet people who will love you back, you need to surround yourself with them. you know? i don;t know what else to tell you except to keep your head up. if you want to find love, you'll find it eventually.
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As long as you remain 'open' and keep making new friends, than eventually you will find 'the one'. As you said, in a city there will be far more lesbians simply to due to there being a greater number of people. Also you didn't state but are you out? If you are than it makes it alot easier to get hooked up because your friends can help too. Most of all don't give up. There's someone for eveyone, you just have to find them.
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The chances are very good, but you have to be patient and not settle. It is better to be alone than be with some *sshole, at least that is how I always believed. It took me almost 35 years to find my soulmate, but the waiting was worth it. She is my other half and my everything. Hang in there, your dream could be just around the corner. Mine was on the internet (not a dating service though) we started chatting and things grew from there. Good luck!
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100%!! As if it was false,we wouldn't get to see many long-termed relationships and great love stories on earth!! But surly takes time!!You must be patient..and I bet one day you will find your true love!!
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I didn't find my wife till I was 29...now I'm almost 42 and we're still going strong. STOP LOOKING and she'll fall in your lap (hopefully literally) like mine did. I had only 2 lesbian experiences (not relationships) and one of those was with a str8 (???) married woman, and they were horrible. I never thought I'd be interested in a woman like Aimee, exactly opposite of every woman I'd ever found attractive. but it turned out we have so much more in common than I ever had with any of those other women I had mooned over all that time. Good Luck to you!
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